Being Friends With the Opposite Sex is a Burden

Another reason why men and women can’t be friends. The debate continues. 

When it comes to being friends with the opposite sex, it is almost impossible to stay on neutral ground. A lot of things get in the way, namely our feelings. That is because attraction is common between both sexes and that is always the problem.

A new study says this feelings of attraction makes friendships more of a burden than a bonus. Plus, our logic tells us that this can jeopardise current relationships.

Participants of the study were asked to list the benefits and drawbacks of having friends of the opposite sex; only 6 percent listed feelings of attraction as a benefit while 32 percent listed these feelings as a cost.

What more, women were more likely than men to regard attraction as a drawback. Sorry guys, this is one of the reasons why we can’t move beyond friendship. A total of 47 percent of women listed attraction as a cost of an opposite-sex friendship as opposed to only 22 percent of men feeling the same.

The study also found that man-woman friendships may harm romantic relationships. Both sexes agreed (38 percent women, 25 percent men) that jealousy from their partners was one of the cost of maintaining this kind of friendship.

It was interesting to note that the more attraction that one felt in this friendship, the less satisfied he or she was with their current romantic relationship.

So this may explains why we get up in arms when our other half spends more time with his girl BFF. Our insecurities could be justified after all.

But for every negative, there’s always a positive. Some people do find the attractions as a benefit in an opposite-sex friendship. So if you’re actually in love with your best friend right now, take heart.

Source: MyHealthNewsDaily, Huffington Post


Gwen Ong

Gwen Ong believes in looking at the little details of life. Good music, paper crafts and man's best friends make her day. She secretly harbours a wish to travel the world as a nomad one day.

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