Are you always complaining about why love is so hard? Where is Mr Right? Or what’s wrong with you? Well, stop!
There isn’t a point to be negative as this will only attract the wrong sort of situation or person into your life. It’s true about the laws of attraction. If you are constantly enveloping yourself in negative energy, you will be that bitter, that unhappy and that miserable.
So how then are you going to attract the right person into your life?
Many people will tell you that the dating world is all about playing the right games and making him work a little. This article is not about that. If you are going to make a relationship happen and the potential for it to go the distance, here are some things to think about.
1. Like attracts like
If you are manipulating, tend to string the other person along and most of all, not being honest, you are most probably going to end up with a similar person who will be doing the exact same things to you. It’s simple really, you reap what you sow.
The law of attraction applies here. If you want a partner who is kind and loving, you have to live based on the same qualities as well. So make a list of what sort of person you want to be with and embrace those qualities yourself.
2. Be happy
If you are not happy with yourself or life for some reason, no man or woman is going to make you happy. And because you’ve been living in misery land for so long, you won’t be able to see a good thing when he or she comes along.
Happiness have to be cultivated from within. If you radiate joy, happiness and kindness, everyone would naturally be attracted to you and want to be around you. Think about it, people who are alive and interesting make other people feel the same way too.
3. Be real
If you are putting up a front just so that cute guy at the office notices you and takes you out, you should rethink your values. Changing and pretending to be someone else always weaken the attraction and in a way, it’s a game of trickery and fakeness.
We often try to be what we think others want us to be but the real you is what makes you the most attractive. You have to be the true you in order to find your match or somebody equal. When you start dating someone as an altered-version of yourself, you’re paving the way for a bad match.
4. Complete yourself
If you go into a relationship because you feel you need someone, you’re only setting yourself up for failure. Unknowingly, you’ll be putting a load of pressure on him or her but in the end, it’ll not work out because that person can’t complete you.
Never ever put yourself in the situation where you are depending on someone else to make you whole. You have to complete yourself first and believe that you’re worthy of your own love. If you don’t feel this, your relationship is not going to last.
5. Greatness within
If you believe in the power of greatness in each individual, acknowledge it. Often times when you go into a relationship, you feel disconnected to your own potential and your partner’s because you are clouded by immaterial things.
What attracted you to the other person in the first place – their strengths, personality, qualities? Remember, it’s not about judging here. See the unique greatness that is in him or her and how amazing they have been or will be in your life.
Credit: Love Coach, Shelly Bullard