Top 5 Modern Day Wedding No-Nos

Gangnam style wedding? Do.not.even.think.about.it!

After the life-changing question, the sky is bluer, the flowers look prettier and even the pile of workloads do not look as terrifying anymore. You are someone’s fiance now and nothing can possibly go wrong. The wedding date is set and now you can finally realise that childhood dream of yours. But once the date gets closer, you start to realise – it is not all rainbows and ponies.

With the self-induced pressure to make it worth remembering for the rest of our lives, comes a never-ending to-do list. The theme, the gown, the guests and the food among a million other things. Those things sometimes eat up our sanity, and cause us to make the split-second decisions that seem good at that moment, yet may deeply regret later on.

Blushing brides-to-be, here are some insights from a fellow woman on biggest wedding mistakes to avoid, so you could look back and be happy with your once in a lifetime event.

5. Unsuitable outfits

You would never want to end up wearing your dream gown and having its ends smudged by muddy grass at your garden wedding party. Or worse still, being the centre piece of the party, in a not so good connotation thanks to your mismatched bride and groom outfits. Always decide on your venue before getting your gown, and make sure your bridesmaids, best men and parents are dressed in a matching manner.

4. Saying ‘yes’ to everyone

Having the Asian roots have its perks and perils when it comes to planning a wedding. On one hand, you have an amazing troop of family members who are always ready to provide you with advice, accompany you in running errands and being your support system. On the other hand, family members, especially parents, sometimes get in the way of your wedding planning with their demands. Try to be accommodating, but it does not mean you have to follow everyone’s suggestions and put it all together for your wedding. It will be one confused wedding that would not please anyone in the end.

3. Inviting too many guests

Weddings of 1,000 people is a norm with our neighbour Indonesia – and you may ask anyone who has attended one and they would all say that it is more of a crowded market than an enjoyable party. The bride and groom can only dream of mingling because they need to stand in the altar and shake guests’ hands for hours. Limit the number of people you, your partner, and families may invite so that as bride and groom you will be able to host your own party – hold decent conversations, take pictures, eat properly and have all the fun you want on the happiest day of your life.

2. The weather factor

Yes, hopes and prayers are powerful – but the rain and sun have their own arrangements. If you know that November is going to be a wet month, you have to either call a bomoh for a garden wedding party or switch into indoor party instead. The point is, never take the weather lightly and be willing to compromise your ideal plans with the environmental situations.

1. Trendy themes

A few months back, a couple from San Fransisco made headlines after their ‘Gangnam Style’ wedding video hit the internet. Stephani Nguyen and Jeremy Ueno were shot dancing to the uber famous tune by Korean rapper Psy – from their pre-wedding to their actual ceremony on September 2nd. While it currently means instant fame for them, could you imagine how would they feel 10 years from now? Never ever, no matter how tempting it is, use a trendy theme for your party. No Twilight, no Harry Potter, no Gangnam Style. You have been warned.