The purpose of life is a life of purpose. ― Robert Byrne
Here’s a question to ponder: why are you in a relationship?
The torrents of messages flooding the media we see and hear everyday almost always suggest that, where love is, lustful infatuation is not a long way off. Some people thrive on the sense of accomplishment in having a partner to tote around malls; others yearn for the companionship that apparently becomes a right in their newfound relationship.
What do you want out of your relationship?
Whatever the case, here are a few reminders to make it a healthy relationship:
Happiness is a decision. ― Michael J. Fox
You, and your happiness, are your responsibility. Never expect anyone else, not even your partner, to give you the happiness you seek. Being in a relationship does not warrant for selfish, but selfless behavior. The key in happiness is forgetting that everything is about you. When you wake up in the morning, tell yourself that it will be a good day, despite whatever will come your way, and believe it. Choose to make your partner happy, and you will be happy.
It’s not who is right, but what is right, that is of importance. ― Thomas Huxley
Have you ever done something you thought was right and was wrongly accused for a completely irrelevant issue? Would it not have been better if they told you what was wrong instead of coming down at you for being a nutcase? When things get heated, do not risk becoming personal. Identify the issue, and work together to solve it, not him. Apologize when in the wrong. Learn to forgive, both him and yourself.
Example has more followers than reason. ― John Christian Bovee
Learn how to communicate well and be clear of your expectations. Sit down together and discuss what is acceptable and what is out of bounds. Nobody knows how to be a perfect partner — this life is for us to learn. Remember that if you want him to change anything, instead of dishing out a volley of reasons, you must first change yourself.
Seek first to understand and then to be understood. ― Stephen Covey
Human being crave sociality with others; everybody wants to be understood. People don’t care how much you know, until they know you care. While seeking to learn of the other individual does not necessarily come easy, it shows that you care, and that you’re willing to put the individual ahead of yourself. Listen, and make sure your not just hearing meaningless words coming from your partner. Support each other; this will help your partner realize that he means something to you, and not just a flash in the pan.
Be yourself; everyone else is taken. ― Oscar Wilde
Probably the most important thing that anyone can come to a greater realization of is the fact that no one is ever going to be 100%, not even themselves. If you are not going to be humble enough to truly acknowledge that with your actions (not just your words), you’ll never be happy with anyone. Always be true to yourself, and truthful to your partner, but be ready to make compromises, as a relationship requires teamwork.
Time is how you spend your love. ― Zadie Smith
Spend quality time with together. Appreciate each other. Go play a sport, watch a movie, eat at a restaurant — whatever gives you time to cherish each other and learn more of one another. Laugh together. It’s hard to communicate when we become too strung up on daily pressing matters
If you’re not enjoying the journey, you probably won’t enjoy the destination. ― Joe Tye
Are you willing to commit to your relationship? If you’re not, chances are you won’t enjoy where it takes you.
How do you ensure your relationship to be a healthy one?
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