Why men have got the short end of the rationality stick.
I’d like to think most women do realise that they are generally quite irrational when it comes to finding a partner. So, I made a quick check list to help you gauge on whether you do have irrational expectations for a partner.
1) You sometimes put the word ‘Perfect’ in front of partner
2) You kind of expect this person to always know what to do and when i.e read your mind
3) You expect that partner should love you just the way you are and love you unconditionally
4) You want him to genuinely desire to re-watch ‘P.S. I Love You’ with you because you love it.
If you agreed with 1 or more of the 4 options, you are part of the population of women setting themselves up for disappointment. And here is why:
- Perfect is an ideal thus does not exist. And if you think you think about it, even if this impossibly ideal guy did exist he’d want to be with a ‘Perfect’ girl, right? So unless you truly believe you are all that, swapping the word ‘Perfect’ for Great or Super Caring would be a good start to wind down your mind for a guy not to fail by design.
- The Professor in X-Men is psychic, men are not. Yes, sometimes we women harbour hopes that men will just know what, how and when they are supposed to do something but if no one ever told them, realistically, how can they? So the next time you feel upset he didn’t do something you didn’t ask him to, remember the back of the BF box which says ‘Mind Reading skills Not Included’ and instead tell him what is on your mind.
- If your partner was constantly behaving like an unlovable crazed person, how would you feel if he expected you to stick around for that? Being with someone is easy, be as great a person as you want to be with. Love is conditional and that is a good thing. It means both parties should self-reflect and improve to make themselves someone worth sticking around for.
- Wanting your partner to enjoy doing things he doesn’t enjoy because you enjoy it is, unreasonable. Reasonable is wanting your partner to do something he doesn’t necessarily enjoy because you enjoy it and be willing to return the favour when Star Trek Directors Cut comes out in HD. You may not enjoy it but you do it because you care. So instead of being unhappy he checked his hand phone twice during the movie, be happy he’s sitting next to you watching what feels like a 6 hour movie to him because you enjoy it.
