Most girls have been drama queens beyond their conscience. Let’s see what the Mars citizens have to say about it!
“I don’t care what excuses you have, I just can’t believe you texted your ex. I don’t care if it is just ‘Happy Chinese New Year’. From the start, you have always wanted to hurt me, and I know I am not as pretty as her, so you can leave me now. I don’t ever wanna see your face ever again!’
Without any disregard to any women, such monologue is a part of women’s lives (including yours truly). There are times women get too carried away with their bubble of worries and anger that we completely forget about others, let alone their opinions. Being a heartfelt creature that we are, we are used to spill all emotions out as a way to express ourselves – hence men call us the drama queens.
The curiosity has led us to pester a few male friends: if they have any experiences with drama queens, and how they react to dramatic situations. We hope against hope that the honest confessions could help us better understand the minds of the Mars-ians.
Situation #1: I am sick on New Year’s Eve
“We were supposed to have a special dinner to celebrate but I got sick. I insisted that we should go, but she said I should rest. However, one minute she asked me to rest, another she kept telling me how disappointed she was. In the end, I decided to temporarily ignore her complaints and slept or else things would just get worse if I was going to stay sick the next day.”
Venus says: this type of guy thinks ahead of time and listens to rant but they always know what is best to do for future’s sake – the planner.
Situation #2: It totally slipped my mind that she is coming home next week
“I had been looking forward for the next time I was meeting her, but somehow the date just slipped off my mind. She got really angry because she thought I had forgotten such an important detail. I let her scold me, and I apologized. However, she prolonged her sulking and I just had to give her a silent treatment until she could think straight again and we could have a mature discussion.”
Venus says: this type of guy is blunt, fair, and square; the leader. They will let you rant, but not excessively. They will make a stand and educate you so no one bullies another in a relationship.
Situation #3: They simply can’t drop a matter so minute
“I can’t stand it when women don’t seem to want a solution. Say, a remark gets misinterpreted. They could go on and on about it. I tried clearing the air but if they simply wouldn’t drop the matter, it’s time for me to stay out of it.”
Venus says: this type of guy is naturally caring, they would offer logical explanations to calm you down. However, if they don’t see you responding well to his effort – he would not waste any more time.
Situation #4: Her insecurities are beyond belief
“She dreamed about me cheating on her and she would not let me go out for the day. Besides, she is really scared of me getting back with my ex even though I have stopped any contacts with her. I persevered, and she has slowly begun to trust me more.”
Venus says: this type of guy believes that actions speak louder than words. They would sometimes zone out to not let words hurt them, but they will faithfully wait until time brings out the truth.
Situation #5: She complains because I go out late at nights
“I do party but I know my boundaries. I wish she knew that partying does not mean I flirt or get drunk – it’s just my way of hanging out with friends. I don’t understand her countless attempts to call and text all night long.”
Venus says: this type of guys holds the ‘take it or leave it’ principle. They do not buy any dramatic behaviour as signs of affection. When dealing with this type of men, one of you need to compromise – either you learn to stop being dramatic or he needs to understand the sincere intention behind all the dramas.
What do I need to do then?
There is nothing wrong with expressing our feeling, in fact it is mentally healthy to do so. However, too much of everything is detrimental. When problems occur, resist the temptation to scream. Sleep it off or take some me time to enable you to think with a clear mind, before blasting your concerns off. If you feel your emotions control you and not the other way round, seek for peers or psychological help.
For scientific point of view of drama queen phenomenon, refer here.
What men really think about drama queens. http://t.co/HBwax8jd