Now, wouldn’t you like to know?
When you realize that verbal communication takes only a 7% slice of the communication cake, you might want to start reading into the other aspects of communication, namely your intonation (the sound of your voice), which takes 38% and your body language (the way you act and move), which dominates with 55%.
This comes especially useful as Valentine’s Day is approaching and you get ready to throw yourself into parties of potential matches. Body language is as subtle as it gets when you’re signaling to the guy across the bar to check you out, though it’s usually done naturally and therefore subconsciously.
The Art of Flirting
Probably the first indication of any flirting is the eyebrow flash. This happens when our eyes met the eyes of someone that gives us the initial X factor. Notice how you wouldn’t even notice the eyes of someone you do not find attractive? Most likely, his eyebrows will be raised for a bit when he makes eye contact with you, then he’ll quickly avert his eyes to something else.
If he’s interested in you, his body will most likely be facing you with feet pointing towards you. And so will his eyes. Triangulation is the technical term for checking someone out. One’s vision will move from one eye to the other, essentially scanning the target’s features while sweeping downwards to the lips. If he starts preening – touching his hair, adjusting his clothes, touching his face – it’s a good indication that he’s trying to impress you.
Women like alpha males, and so males will tend to make themselves look more macho than they probably like to admit. He’ll spread his legs apart; he’ll suck his gut in and stick his chest out; he’ll do the cowboy stance with his hands in his pockets and fingers pointing towards the groin area. He’ll also make himself look all the more confident, maybe even try to make himself look like the Jacob Black of his wolf pack.
Someone once said that imitation was the best form of flattery. If you are with a guy 1-on-1, and he seems to be mirroring your every move, chances are, he’s into you. To mirror is not to mimic every single move, but to establish some kind of synchronization. It is something we do to show the other individual that we’re on the same page and we enjoy the same things.
Maybe he starts moving into your personal bubble and listens very intently on what you have to say – that’s another sign of his flirtatious attempts. Then comes the “accidental” touch – a bump on the way to the bar, or (for some bizarre reason) mistaking your hand for the napkin.
In general, men do not send very many non-verbal cues, but they can be harder to interpret than women’s, even though they use about five times more than men. These are general guidelines and different individuals differ, of course.
Have fun trying to read men’s minds!
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