No matter how frustrated you are at your children, shouting will never work.
Take a walk down memory lane, and recall those times when mom or dad was shouting at you for bad grades or to get your chores done. Now, do these memories involve you listening to them happily, or being a sour puss and ignoring them? Chances are that you’d pick the later action.
With that in mind, why are you still yelling at your kids?
According to a study by the London School of Economics (LSE), raising your voice is the last thing that you want to do when you are cross with your child. “Shouting at your child or punishing them are not ways to discipline your kid,” shares Professor Dr Shaheen Islam, Chairperson of the Department of Educational and Counselling Psychology in University of Dhaka. To further explain why, take for instance if he or she breaks a vase.
“If you yell at your kid, he’ll learn that a material thing is more important to you than him, resulting in a loss of self-worth while he learns to be more materialistic in the process,” explains Dr. Shaheen. In addition to that, when you hit or yell at children, you are actually trying to control them through violence — and that is both abusive and disrespectful.
Instead, parents should keep calm in scenarios like these and ask themselves whether said vase is more important than their child – whether or not shouting is required to get the message across.
Ultimately, just think of it this way – It is not like junior will be perfectly behaved if you keep on yelling. Kid will be kids, and they’ll be learning what’s right or wrong from their parents; which is why positive and trusting parenting methods always work better over strict and violent processes.