Introverts can be hard to understand. Here are some things to keep in mind if you’re dating one:
Everyone is different in their own right. Often times, a person is seen to be an introvert or an extrovert. Being with an extroverted person is fun, their outgoing, love to be around people and enjoy doing new and exciting things. But what about the other end of the spectrum?
Understanding an introvert can be a challenge if you’re not one yourself.
1. Forget Preconceptions About Introverts
Entering any relationship with preconceptions isn’t good to begin with. Even more so with introverts, there are so many stigmas surrounding introverts, such as hard-to-talk-to or shy individuals. Bringing misconceptions into a relationship will hinder their ability to feel comfortable with you. This can jeopardize a good relationship.
2. Finding Balance
If you are someone that likes to be in a crowded room, know that introverts often get overwhelmed by large crowd. Though every introvert is different, some are able to interact more than others. It’s best to gauge their ability to do so and find a balance for your need to socialize and your partner’s needs to have a quiet night.
3. Don’t Expect Them To Join In All The Time
Getting to know your introverted partner and gauging their comfort level with certain activities will do your relationship good. You can’t expect them to join you every time you want to head out, sometimes they need to re-energize with some alone time. If you’re not sure why they don’t want to head out, you can always ask, just don’t pressure them.
4. Don’t Mistake Being Introvert for Being Shy
One of the many misconceptions of introverts is that they are shy. Introverts prefer to have a close group of friends that they can connect with on a deeper level. Small talk with people they rarely meet is not of interest to them. But that doesn’t mean you can just skip introducing them, you can never tell when someone can become a good friend.
“I’m an introvert … I love being by myself, love being outdoors, love taking a long walk with my dogs and looking at the trees, flowers, the sky.” – Audrey Hepburn
5. Know Their Limits
Know the limits of your introverted partner and you can gauge their comfort level. This will allow you to know when it’s best to have a quiet night in, or when they’re up to a night out with friends.
6. They Are Good At Giving Advice
This would be a bonus. Whatever your problem is, introverts will always try to help with useful advice. Their thoughts are never motivate by social pursuits or popularity but only for your best interest.
7. Your Time Together Is Precious
They enjoy spending time with people they care about. To an introvert, your time together is that much more important to them, then you may think it is.
8. Find An Activity To Enjoy Together
Make the effort to find an activity you can both enjoy, whether indoors or outdoors. The key here is to push their limits (slowly) without pressuring them. Here’s a tip, either do an activity with just the two of you or his/her close group of friends.